We Are Mortal, Fragile and Only Live Once
Only a few days away from the end of April, like so many others I speak to I find myself asking where on earth is the time going? Surely it was only Christmas last week, wasn’t it? As I get older I also find myself reflecting on and agreeing with a comment I used to hear a lot from the grown-ups when I was so much younger “The time goes by so much quicker the older you get”. Back then I didn’t really understand what they meant or how it could be but never the less when I hear and even say it myself now that comment feels frighteningly accurate.
We are all so busy choreographing our lives; working hard, playing hard, trying to keep everyone in our life happy. We don’t have time to be sick, time to take a lunch break, time to relax, time to be spontaneous, sometimes we even find we don’t have the time to talk with our loved ones – hey we are ‘divine beings’ after all if we stop the world will fall apart and others won’t be able to manage without us but as we are going to be here forever it won’t come to that.
There are certain moments that occur in our life time when we unexpectedly become acutely aware that we are not that divine being we thought we were, we are mortal, very fragile and actually only live once. This realisation often kicks in as we approach new milestones: childbirth; committing to a long-term relationship; divorce; flying off on that trip of a lifetime; severe injury or the death of a loved one. It doesnt have to be something personal to us, it can be hearing a tragic news story which touches us such as the recent horrific earthquake which has killed and shattered thousands of lives in Nepal. We start to ask ourselves ‘what if’ and just what should we do to plan for the eventuality of our ‘what if’ moment.
The most essential thing is to take the time to make a Will and at the same time make a mental note to revisit and update it as you pass each new milestone in your life, for example are you aware that Wills made by you and your partner before marriage become nil and void upon marriage or that if you do not revise your Will in the event of divorce that Will which probably left your estate to your then spouse will still pass to them.
Once the Will is made that’s it you can forget about your affairs now your executor can sort everything out, they will know what to do….but will they?
Less than 25%* of people actually discuss their end of life wishes and unless you are one of that 25% or your loved ones are in possession of a crystal ball they will only be able to ‘second guess’ what you would have liked done.
Have you had a conversation with your loved ones recently about how you wish to be ‘sent off’? What about your Twitter/Facebook/Linkedin account, do they know how to access them and what you would like to happen to them; in 2013 it was estimated that around 20million** active Facebook profiles of users who have passed away.
There is so much information we should be passing on to our loved ones, the more we can list and give details about then the easier it will be for them to finalise our life’s formalities when that time comes. If you really find you can’t talk about it then WRITE IT DOWN.
Talking about death doesn’t make it happen it, it shows you care and makes it easier for those left behind.
Source: *dyingmatters.org **quora.com